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Terrible Twos!


Why do children begin to test their parents when they reach the age of two?

My Personal Experience
Maya Eve age two & four months

I noticed a change from the first day of January 2015; she had just turned two years the month before. The change was not gradual nor was there any warnings to what was about to happen.

Suddenly she began to scream, without cause and without reason, just scream continuously in a manner that made the back of your hair stand on end.

Maya Eve up until her second birthday was an angel, she rarely protested and neither objected nor vocally made a scene if she was ever displeased.  Happy to accommodate and go with the flow of life around her, in short she was an absolute pleasure.

Although her determination was clear and strength of character was already shinning out promising a force to be reckoned with.  Nonetheless, it was quite, silent and hidden, Maya was not one to show off her intelligence but rather from her subtle actions, she attempts to give the impression that she is unaware.

Yet when January 1st came her determination and character were no longer hidden, though quite and seriously Wilful, she now screamed it out for all to hear and for mummy to beware!!

At first I was shocked and bewildered for I did not know how to deal with her hysterical screaming that I had never before experienced, and while I searched for reasons and answers as to why she might be acting this way, I continuously blamed myself for perhaps being the cause of this new phase of her life somehow, outside the excuse of just labelling it the terrible twos!

It took many meditations and soul searching sessions and many weeks past before a realisation started to surface clearly through my close observation of Maya.  This was not simply a phase that parents should ignore or tread with care because it’s the terrible twos; I realised that it was way more important and life shaping then that!  The age of two-three is the battle of the wits, yes the toddler will be testing the parent, but let us keep in mind that the toddler is character building, exploring their environment with their own sense of power, pushing the boundaries to see how they can manipulate their environment with all the elements and people within it, yet most importantly they are programming their machine (mind) on the tricks that will work, be effective and allow their desires to materialise.

The toddlers’ point of reference is the role models that represent all males and all females, the mother and father. As they grow this will reflect out to what they will perceive to be an example of how life can be dealt with and how to manipulate people to get what they want based on the treatment and teachings of their parents during the character building age of 2-4.

Maya is a very strong leader personality, a leader personality requires discipline and to understand how to use and work with discipline.  Due to the fact that leader personalities will not listen to others or pay heed, they are leaders, born to lead, born with innate confidence of knowing who they are and where they need to go, knowing that they can have whatever they may desire.  Therefore if a leader personality is not taught discipline and restraint on how to manifest their desires, they will grow stronger with no direction, like a loose cannon about to explode with intense energy that is not focused and has not been taught how to focus.  Such power might be abused for personal agendas and short-sighted entertainment goals, rendering them spoilt and uncontrolled for they are not born to listen or follow but to lead.  If the role models (parents/members of family) of leader personalities toddlers do not match the power, focus and intent of the toddler’s output during the foundation building of their character, it would be too late to make changes later once the character has set with any flaws.

As I realised this I stopped torturing myself that I had done something wrong and began to respond to her based on this theory.  Sure enough as I challenged her strength of character, she came back stronger and stronger each time.  Fearless and her quite determination unwavering, she began testing her Will power and powerful intents against my own, relentlessly and patiently attempting to break me down so she may win her objective.  Each time demanding from me to push her harder and harder back into disciplinary realisations that life will not give you what you want without a fight, a decent fight and one that will test your own endurance.  My message is clear and constant each time, “My dear you will not get far in life throwing tantrums and behaving like a brat, and you will get no where with that behaviour”.  When she eventually gives up and gives in, she looks at me amused and happy with acknowledgement in her eyes that say, “ok mummy I didn’t break you down this time, but I’m going to keep trying!”

I myself do not give up, it is exhausting but each and every time must be exactly the same, I never ignore any of her antics to ensure that she realises I am paying heed and taking care of every action she takes, never give up and never give in, each time the same battle of wits occur between my daughter and I, something beautiful emerges before my eyes.  I notice that my daughters’ character is becoming stronger, more determined, more focused and much more creatively intelligent to try and break me.

There is nothing more beautiful then watching your own child’s character build up stronger and more powerful each day, knowing that you are their sparing partner that will condition your child’s character for the world of tomorrow.

I would not call it the terrible twos, but the character building twos, when your child will challenge the power, focus, intelligence and determination of your own character to build theirs against your own.

If a child grows up a brat due to the parents giving into the child’s whims instead of challenging them to teach them discipline, in such cases every parent knows as much as we love our children and wish to give them everything this world can offer, if we unwittingly spoil them without giving them the tools to deal with people, life and circumstances in the correct manner, we would have condemned them to a life of unhappiness and imbalance.

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Awakened Parent Workshop


The role of being a parent is probably one of the hardest and most complex roles a human being would ever encounter or undertake.  Firstly there is no handbook that outlines how to execute the role correctly, although there are many books that aim to help guide new parents into finding their own comfort zone in their new role.  Secondly due to every human child being different and an individual, therefore each would require a different method of communication, consideration and upbringing, which is why it is practically impossible to write a handbook that would benefit all parents on how to raise a child.

Except there are some areas that parents can oversee and ensure it reflects their ideals and life views.

Every single existing parent will tell you that the parent role is a trial and error experience, and that we are all students to the very end, for as much as we are guiding this new being on how to live and operate in the world at large, through our children we learn more about ourselves whether in flaws or excellence of character.  Therefore parenthood is a journey of deep self-discovery and self improvement, for no parent would wish to extend their flawed character to their offspring, the extension of themselves that will live on and become the future of tomorrow.

If as a parent we strive to leave our imprint in history, so let it be that our children will carry forth a better and more evolved version of us to build an advanced open society of tomorrow.

An Awakened Parent Workshop is designed to introduce parents who wish to be more involved in their children’s environment, eating habits, education and overall wellbeing and integration within society.  Parents of like minds have the opportunity to meet and exchange ideas, tips, experience and knowledge from their parenting role, and by doing so create a caring and nurturing community that best fits and meets the parents goals and criteria for raising their child with the freedom of choosing the non-conventional lifestyle, if they so wished.

The workshops will look at different views and attitudes of an evolved awakened parent and how to balance parenting with an ambitious career, social awareness of dangers and misinformation that can be harmful to ourselves and children and finally how to create playgroups that would fulfil our special requirements for our children.

For example, I am a parent who has an extensive understanding about food and eating habits, as such I still cannot find a playgroup nor nursery setting that would meet my standard of food administration and education.  Although I know quite a few parents who share my exact sentiments, so by getting together we can create our own safe environment for our children that would protect our ideals, their health and wellbeing.

If you are a parent who share the same passion for alternative unconventional parenting as an aware awakened parent, if you have your own ideas, information and experience that you would like to share to increase and further the awareness of like minded parents, then please join our workshop, we will be happy to meet and welcome you.

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I Am A Working Parent, Can I Be An Awakened Parent?


To put it simply, yes you can.  Please read our article on ‘Am I An Awakened Parent?’

In truth AwakeConBal Lifestyle philosophies present an idealistic parent role that would best serve and meet the needs of a growing child, however, the world is not ideal and sometimes life can be anything but ideal.

Therefore, one must be flexible and open minded in regards to ideals, but in the process always be mindful that when one allows some of the ideals to be compromised, then it would only stand to reason that the results will be compromised as well.  Yet never forget that there are no chances or accidents so if a thing is to be compromised it was meant to be exactly so for the higher purpose of the issue in question.

Once the awakening process begin to take place, if one had not started it already, then a parent will begin to understand their imperative role in their child’s growth and developmental process.

If a nanny is spending more time teaching and attending events with your child, then it is the nanny who has taken your parent role and your role in your child’s upbringing, growth and development is then diminished by her presence.  So as they grow up their respect for your presence, teaching, advice or opinions will suffer greatly, because on a subconscious level, unknown perhaps even to them, they would resent you for not being there and for not fulfilling your role towards them, leaving their care to strangers.  They would be right!  However, life and the world are not ideal, so how can we remedy this possible future problem from occurring and emotionally damaging your child?

Perhaps one of the remedies for a career parent, or a parent who must work to provide, would be to keep in mind that a nanny should be there to aid a parent and not take over the parent’s role, for example the important events the parent (both equally) must attend to show care and support to a growing child, who will need a parent present for moral support.

By becoming an aware awakened parent you will begin to realise the dangers of the environment and stranger’s influence on your child in their first stage of childhood (age 0-10yrs).  Therefore this awareness will take root to automatically inspire you to divide your time and attention to all the details that require your nurture, attention and protective presence.  As such you will delegate the different tasks where a housekeeper or nanny may help you with so it would not interfere with your parenting. 

Idealistically a parent should be around their child in their first ten years of growth and development.  So if a parent can tailor their work to fit around their parenting role that would be truly idealistic but very rarely possible. 

AwakeConBal Philosophy idealistically views the parent’s role to be the most effective and must needed in the first ten years of the child’s life, where they would lay the foundation of the child’s education and ego personality.  Once the child reaches their tenth year, the parent’s hardest job will be done, because their child’s education and ego personality will be set permanently and even if your child was then to be tested with the most frightening of scenarios, be assured that they will respond in exactly the way you had raised them. 

Being a parent is a complex and very hard role, but if you do your best in the first ten years, then the role will be plain sailing from there.  Although there might be the occasional storm here and there, but a strong independent child will pull through and fight their life battles with determination and success.  A parent’s role thereafter will be to guide with advice when asked and not imposed where possible.

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Am I An Awakened Parent?


To be an awakened parent is to be a type of parent who is constantly updating and keeping themselves informed about their role as a parent,  how can one improve on their role?  How can one understand it better or execute it better?

Apart from the first thought that pops to mind being more inline with, “Whose got the time to think, yet alone read to remind yourself why it is better not to think in the first place!”
Followed by, “Because my role as a parent right now is a breeze, so I think if we add awakened to my full plate, it will definitely make me scream less!!”
I guess in an idealistic society the role of parenting can always be questioned, in order for the role to constantly evolve with it the evolution of race and humanity.  However, most of us do not live in an ideal society, so perhaps to build a community of parents who can share their time, experience and knowledge to awaken each other might create an ideal environment for us to easily fulfil our role for us and our children.

I decided to walk this path of experience as an awakened parent before  I even decide to become a paren, due to the fact that I always saw that role as the only role I needed to get right.  I realised from an early age that parenting is an enormous responsibility that requires immense knowledge and experience of the world at large.  As such researching the role and understanding what it would entail to be the best parent possible allowed for me to awaken myself to that role, my duty as a guide to a new soul and my obligation as a provider, nurturer and protector of that new soul.

It all sounds fabulous darling, such idealism sound fabulous on paper, but what if we start questioning our experience and knowledge as parents, what would that make us, bad parents because we were not awakened?  And how can any parent with the daily demands of life add further to that load to include research and changing ones lifestyle to live a more ‘Awakened’ life!

Amazingly to be an awakened parent nowadays would mean you have to afford it, not so much with finance but with time and patience, two things our modern society robs from us.  Also how can anyone know what makes a good parent, there is no manual that would outline the attributes of a good parent, the task before you that even when one experience it firsthand is practically impossible to fathom.

That is why the best course of action is to arm yourself with experience of life, which age and wisdom would play a great part in achieving and prepare yourself with as much knowledge as possible starting from child psychology, social behaviour and environmental influence on an impressionable child and how it would impact its character, food and eating habits and the health consequence of fast and processed food, the effects of exposure to polluted information and how it would effect the psyche of your child, the effects of advertising and subliminal messages that control and affect the behaviour of your child on a subconscious level.  Then go back to environment again and always remember that after a certain age your child will be 70% of its waking time in an environment that you cannot see, cannot control and do not know what dangers your child might be exposed to subtly or directly.  After all no matter how great and expensive a school might be a teacher only has one pair of eyes over at least two dozen children.

But you might wonder what danger can a child be exposed to when they are in class at a good school.

My personal opinion based on my life experience, I found that the danger might be more in the exposure to other children whose parents have exposed them to polluted information and circumstances that had damaged them and as such they would bring that damage and expose your children to it.

To be a parent today is not like being a parent one hundred years ago, for life was simpler then, it was easy going, people looked out for one another, there was social integrity, honour and morals –technology was at its infancy –but today with the world in your back pocket through internet, your child can be exposed to information and dangers you might never even had imagined existed, yet alone now existing in your child’s psyche!

It is infinitely harder to be a good parent today then back then, it is damn near impossible to be an awakened parent and trying to find like minded parents that could help you create the safe environment for all your children to grow together.  Nonetheless it is still part of our role and duty as parents to gather knowledge and become aware of all the possible dangers that our children might be exposed to directly and indirectly, so we may know how to protect them and nurture them into adulthood, at which time they will take over their own lives to lead.  It is only then and at that point you can relax for the hard part of your role is now done, and done well.

There is extensive information out there in all areas of knowledge as mentioned above, but one must sift through and analyse a variety of information, not only is knowledge power, but knowledge will also aid parents to learn how to understand and communicate with their children by learning how to respond to their child’s growth through any given process.

AwakeConBal Lifestyle will attempt to research and blog many different areas of child development and parenting techniques, while building a community of like minded parents to pool a combined network of experience and knowledge to provide the service we all can refer to.  The blog will highlight the latest information circulating to improve our roles and implement healthier family lifestyle routines that best match our needs and existing lifestyle.

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Awakened Parent: Embracing The Parent Role

As Humanity Evolve So Does Our Awareness.  This Awareness Bestows Great Power And An Even Greater Responsibility.  This Responsibility Is Not Only To The Self But To The Extension Of Our Self That Will Carry Forth Our Genes, Our Knowledge, Our Heritage And Our Civilisation Into The Future That We Teach As Parents.

The Role Of Parent Had Never Been Contemplated Nor Understood As Much As It Is Today.  An Aware Parent Is One Who Understands And Undertake Their Role As Guides To The Seeds Of Tomorrow’s Generation To The Best Of Their Knowledge And Ability.  For Each Human Becomes An Immortal When They Give Birth To An Extension Of Themselves.
The Greatest Most Magnificent Piece Of Artist Creation That Is  Co-Created Between Two Humans And The Universe, For The Purpose Of Continuation And Evolution.

Universally Trusted With Such An Incredible Gift As A New Life That You As Guide Can Leave Behind Your Imprint Of Your Entire Experience In The Psyche Of This New Creation. 
Would You Then Not Sacrifice Everything To Ensure That Only The Most Beautiful Of Experiences And Characteristics That Embody You Would Be Passed Onto Them.

If You Wrote Your Memoirs For Future Generations To Read, Though You Might Mention Some Faults In Your Character But Would You Fill Every Page With The Worst Of Your Flaws?
Similarly Your Life With Your Child Is Like A Book, Would You Fill Every Page With A Painful Memory?
Or Would You Try Your Very Best To Limit Those Pages To Be Nothing More Than Trivial Human Error?

To Be An Aware Parent Is A Very Painful And Hard Role, Much Harder Then Any Other Parent Who Do Not Seek The Awareness Of Their Role And Lie To Themselves By Saying That They Are Doing The Best They Can.

The Best Is The Best Of Oneself And If You Are Not Living The Best Of Yourself Then You Are Not Doing The Best You Can.  For That Is What It Means To Be An Aware Parent.

Though The Role Is Not Clear Cut And No Parent Can Ever Be The Very Best Parent Nor Can A Parent Be Perfect Without Mistakes, But Your Child Would Observe That You The Parent Is Tenacious And Driven To Always Try To Be The Very Best Of Who You Truly Are.  In Return That Is What You As A Parent (Guide) Will Also Imprint Into Their Psyche To Do The Same, After All Everyone Makes Mistakes For We Are All Human, But To Recognise And Correct The Mistake, Ensuring Not To Repeat It Again, Means That They Would Learn The Valuable Lesson Of Always Striving To Be The Very Best They Can Be.  It Is This Act That Will Ensure The Evolution Of Humanity -Then You May See With Your Own Eyes That The Extension Of You Has Succeeded To Evolve Into A Better Version Of You For The Future Of Tomorrow.

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